|   Letters written 
              by would-be adopters to Arnold Gesell 
              illustrate that the claims of scientific 
              adoption—to decrease uncertainty and increase predictability—were 
              welcomed by well-educated Americans interested in identifying children 
              of normal or superior intelligence. Was is possible to determine, 
              in advance, if any given child would turn out to be college material? 
              This question appeared frequently in Gesell’s files and was 
              especially telling before World War II, when higher education was 
              available to only a small minority of the population. While Gesell 
              and other professionals clearly believed that developmental research 
              could (and should) make adoption safer, these letters suggest that 
              some adopters wanted children to live up to exacting specifications 
              and hoped science might deliver on that promise.  
            March 29, 1939 
            Gentlemen: 
            . . . .We wish to start inquiries 
              with you about adopting a child. We have a daughter who will be 
              five years old this summer; and we have lost two children at birth, 
              one two years ago and one this month. 
            We are desirous of securing a boy between eighteen 
              months and two years of age with six months leeway either way on 
              this limit. To make a satisfactory little brother for our daughter 
              ___, and to compete with her successfully, the boy should be quite 
              alert mentally and vigorous physically. Since we plan and probably 
              will be able to provide a higher education for our children we should 
              like to have the boy show evidence of a mental capacity which will 
              warrent [sic] such an education. We have understood from our reading 
              on the subject that you are able to judge mental capacity of a child 
              with fair accuracy even at such an early age. We feel that adopting 
              a baby is less hazardous if this is true. . . . 
            We shall welcome an investigation of our home and circumstances. . . . 
            Yours, very truly, . . . 
            * * * 
            July 11, 1940 
            Gentlemen: 
            I have just had the pleasure of reading Dr. Arnold Gesell’s 
              book entitled “The Guidance of Mental Growth in Infant and 
              Child.” 
            This book was of particular interest to me, especially the chapter 
              entitled “Clinical Guidance in Infant Adoption,” as 
              my wife and I are interested in adopting a baby girl. . . . 
            My wife and I have been married for twelve years and we have a 
              fine, bright little daughter who is now seven years old. We have 
              wanted her to have a brother or sister for some time; but due to 
              two unfortunate operations which my wife had to undergo, we will 
              be unable to have any more children of our own. We can give a child 
              a great many advantages, and she would no doubt have the opportunity 
              of a college education. 
            Out of fairness to ourselves as well as the child, we desire to 
              avail ourselves of the latest scientific achievements, to insure 
              a happy outcome to the venture and with this in mind, my purpose 
              is to inquire how the Psycho-Clinic can help us. If we obtained 
              a baby, I presume we could bring her to your clinic as soon as possible 
              to permit you to make your first observations, and return at intervals 
              of about 3 months for the remainder of the one year trial period. 
              How long would your studies require each time? Can they be made 
              of a Saturday, permitting the trip to be made over a week end? What 
              is your fee for this service?. . . . 
            Looking forward to your reply with considerable interest, I remain, 
            Yours very truly,. . . 
            p.s. It has just occurred to me to add to my letter, that my wife 
              would like to get a baby as young as possible; but I feel after 
              reading Dr. Gesell’s book, that we should try to get a baby 
              not younger than three months in order to better judge it’s 
              [sic] mentality. I would appreciate your advice on that point. 
            * * * 
            June 29, 1950 
            Dear Professor Gesell: 
            My husband and I, being childless, have applied to adopt a boy. 
              Being middle-aged, the agencies have advised us that only older 
              children would be available to us. To this we agreed. 
            We have been offered for consideration a boy, aged 9, in good physical 
              health. Mother unknown, probably of Polish extraction, her pregnancy 
              having occurred in her third year in high school. Father completely 
              unknown. Child placed in boarding home for which mother paid for 
              a short time. He has spent most of his life with a German-Catholic 
              family as a boarding child. . . . This family being 
              disrupted, the child was returned to an orphanage run by nuns in 
              the New York area. The social worker mentioned that the boy was 
              doing averagely well in school, was likeable, and had good manners 
              which he used “because he knew he got things he wanted that 
              way”, was liked by other children, but that he would not talk 
              about himself with the social worker, and at the discussion of his 
              problems he would deliberately change the subject. . . . 
            I have waited many years for the fulfillment of my desire to have 
              a child to care for, and have persisted against the advice of friends 
              who tell me adoption will not be a satisfactory substitute for my 
              own children; that I will find the adjustments too difficult for 
              my admittedly “unsaintly” self; that I am too old and 
              settled, etc., etc. However, when faced with this case history which 
              seemed to me to be so meager, and being asked bluntly, “Are 
              you interested in considering this child for adoption?” I 
              became mentally panicky. Up until now I have had complete confidence 
              in the wisdom of my plans, even though I have worried at times as 
              to my fitness to handle all the problems which might arise. At this 
              point, I feel that I need impersonal advice from a properly trained 
              person who knows what may and may not be expected of children. Will 
              you try to help me? 
            Have you any suggestions as to how we can fairly judge a child? 
              What traits to look for in his favor, or against him as a subject 
              for adoption? How much weight should be given to first impressions 
              and feelings of liking, disliking, or pity?. . . 
            I am most anxious that this shall be a happy placement and shall 
              avoid any elements of “martyrdom”. I want very much 
              to be unselfish and charitable in planning for the welfare of a 
              child who needs help. Yet, at the same time, I feel it is only wise 
              to try to be sure that I am not being led by sympathy and sentimentality 
              into a situation which is essentially unworkable. . . . 
            Very sincerely yours. . . .  |