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            ADOPTION TERMINOLOGY 
            Words and phrases to watch for positive and negative connotations; 
            
               
                |   POSITIVE  | 
                  NEGATIVE  | 
               
               
                |   Adoption Triad 
                  Adoption plan was made for. . . 
                  The baby joined the family 
                  The older child moved in with his/her family  | 
                  Adoption Triangle 
                  Adopted out                                  
                  Put up for adoption 
                   
                   Given up  | 
               
               
                |   Adopted person  | 
                  Adopted child (when speaking of an adult)  | 
               
               
                |   Parent by marriage  | 
                  Stepparent  | 
               
               
                |   (To opt for, to take on, to choose) 
                    Parenting  | 
                  Keeping  | 
               
               
                |   Birthparent (father, mother, giver) 
                  Biological (parent, child, ancestry) 
                  Genetic (parent, ancestry, shared genetic ancestry) 
                  First parent 
                  Woman (lady) who gave birth  | 
                  Real parent 
                     
                   
                  Natural parent 
                     
                   
                  Unmarried mother 
                     
                   
                  Sire  | 
               
               
                |   My child 
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                  Adopted (as a prefix to “child 
                    ” or “parent” can become a label when constantly 
                    used).  | 
               
               
                |   Born outside of marriage 
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                  Illegitimate child 
                  Bastard  | 
               
               
                |   Born to a single person 
                  -divorced 
                  -single 
                  -never married  | 
                  Unwanted child 
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                |   Termination of parental rights; unable 
                    to continue parenting (older child)  | 
                  Gave up  | 
               
               
                |   Made an adoption plan, legally released  | 
                  Gave away  | 
               
               
                |   An adoption was arranged for - or planned  | 
                  He/She was placed  | 
               
               
                |   Permission to sign a release of information 
                    or a non-release of information  | 
                  Disclosure 
                  Non-disclosure  | 
               
               
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                  Their own children 
                  Their real children  | 
               
               
                |   The waiting child 
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                  Adoptable child 
                  Hard to place child  | 
               
               
                |   Update (case file)  | 
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                |   (making, resuming) Contact 
                  -Meet 
                  -Locate  | 
                  Reunion  | 
               
               
                |   A child from abroad  | 
                  A foreign child 
                   
                  (Korean) orphan (child was likely not orphaned)  | 
               
               
                |   Preadoptive counseling  | 
                  Homestudy  | 
               
               
                |   Adoption available for children  | 
                  Children available for adoption  | 
               
             
            A BASIC INTENTION SHOULD BE TO AVOID FOREVER LABELING PEOPLE, e.g.: 
            adopted child vs. child 
            Korean child vs. child 
            own child vs. child 
            foreign child vs. child  |  
         
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		  |   Source: 
              “Adoption Terminology,” Child Welfare League of America 
              Papers, Box 66, Folder: “Post Legal Adoption Services,” 
              Social Welfare History Archives, University of Minnesota.             | 
         
       
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