These minutes
document a seminar given by Dr. Viola
Bernard for workers at Louise Wise Services in New York on the
subject of mixed-race children. (The agency’s practice of
hiring scientific consultants to help them make racial determinations
and predictions in such cases is documented in Discussion
of the Role of Anthropology in Transracial Adoptions, 1956.)
Delays and difficulties in placement prompted a reconsideration
of rigid matching practices
(especially with regard to skin color) and the articulation of a
new placement philosophy that opened the door for the acceptance
of difference and anticipated the debate about transracial
adoptions. At the same time, this discussion makes perfectly
clear how worried agency workers were that children of unknown background
might develop “Negroid” features later in life, a possibility
that categorized them as “Negro”
children and limited their placement options.
David W was discussed specifically as a child who has been held
for a long period in foster care, not yet placed, now more than
a year and a half old. Because of unknown paternal background and
his dark skin coloring, he was seen earlier by Dr. Shapiro who felt
that he might be of Puerto Rican paternity, advised our holding
him for a time because of the possibility of his becoming darker.
Yet it has been over a year and a half since Dr. Shapiro advised
that we go ahead with placement.
Various workers have seen David. All have agreed that he is not
Negroid appearing but he is described in varying ways as to color.
People have been seeing him differently. His features were described
from finely chiseled to full. The question was raised as to his
lithe, small build and how that might relate to the possibility
of a Puerto Rican background. Dr. Bernard felt that this is in itself
an economic factor. She pointed out the differences in appearance
of some Puerto Rican people who are out of stereotype because of
the better nutrition and economic factor, not because of a different
heredity factor.
In looking at the difficulties in placing David part of this seemed
to be the tendency to draw conclusions as to how a family might
see him. We started with sorting out confusion and differences on
what the reality factors were about David as problems in placing
him, how each worker subjectively saw him and then separated the
latter from how a family might see him. To evaluate what were reality
factors, Dr. Bernard felt we should have to first use as criteria
skin color and the question of Negroid features which on further
discussion did not seem like problems pointing to his being a Negro
child, and we had no facts to say he is. His appearance, for example,
could as well fit with Mediterranean coloring, depending on who
happened to be seeing David and how they saw him.
Dr. Bernard developed the importance of weeding out our own subjective
feelings in presenting a child and staying with the reality factors.
In David’s instance, the family is able themselves to see
David’s appearance and to react then in their own subjective
way. If in advance we may feel a child of darker coloring would
be acceptable to a family and if they were accepting generally of
unknown paternity, then why not present him in that sense to a family
rather than adding our assumptions (subjective) as to why he may
be dark. . . .
We may feel at times that resemblance to possible adoptive parents,
extremely positive and lengthy background, often seen positively
by the worker will be by the parents. It is also possible to “over-sell”
on basis of giving too much. One instance was mentioned where an
impressive background was given in detail and was too much for the
adoptive parents to be able to assimilate. Matching in physical
characteristics, which we may feel would only bring a positive reaction,
can sometimes be threatening and may involve a parent’s deeper
feeling around such factors as their own security and conflicts
with these characteristics. Some instances of real struggle were
mentioned in how adoptive parents have worked this out, depending
on their own feelings and adjustments re themselves and the counter
forces operating.
The drama and shock of seeing the baby itself was discussed, how
the baby may fit or not fit with the picture the adoptive parents
may have of a child ahead of time. We should give enough history,
in a selective way, to responsibly transfer to the family a basis
on which, coupled with their seeing of the child, can free them
to make their own decision about the child.
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